There are those couples that just know that they’ve met their soul mate the first time they lock eyes… And then there are the rest of us.
We take our time getting to know someone. We obsess over their Facebook profiles and photos, giving them an enthusiastic thumbs-up on every post we deem worthy. We enjoy a plethora of meals and drinks together. We hold hands, kiss, and sleep together. We become entangled in each other’s families, friends and Twitter feeds. Eventually over time things begin to get boring, and can often feel predictable. You don’t have to be fighting or at each other’s throat in order for a once hot passionate relationship to fizzle out into bland routine. Find out how taking a simple day off from a relationship works and what both of you should know to benefit from it.
There are two kinds of breaks in love, one that’s good and one that does more harm than good.
– A relationship break that leads to a makeup. Are you genuinely interested in your lover and want to hold the relationship together? If you’re taking some time away to calm down and sort the confusions in your head, it’s a good break to take.
– A relationship break that leads to a breakup. Are you taking a break from the relationship to get away from your partner for a while because you can’t stand them anymore? Do you feel happier being alone than together with your partner? Your relationship may already be falling apart and you may be looking for a weak excuse to end the relationship.
Reasons to take a break from the relationship
Contrary to popular belief, you don’t just take a break whenever you want. There are just a couple of reasons to take a break. For everything else, there’s a little thing called a conversation.
* You feel claustrophobic. Men are easily susceptible to this kind of a break. They fiercely protect their own space and go to great lengths to get some alone time by themselves. If you’re feeling silently frustrated by all the together time or if you feel like you have no life of your own, take a break for a few hours or for a weekend.
* You need time to think things over. Are both of you dealing with a relationship crisis right now that can’t be sorted through a conversation, perhaps one of you cheated on the other or did something just as unforgivable? If you need time to reevaluate the relationship, taking a break in the relationship may give you the time to give that a thought. [Request A Reading: Click Here To Request A Custom Love Reading]
* You may be getting attention from someone else and they are making you second guess where you see yourself in the long term with your current relationship. You may be wondering if the grass is greener with someone new. Instead of making a rush decision that you may regret. Take a mini break and think things through carefully.
The little breaks all of us take in a relationship
All couples take breaks all the time. It helps us appreciate our partner and also gives us some time to just be ourselves. By learning to take these little breaks now and then, you can eliminate needless frustrations and avoid taking those big scary breaks that can ruin the relationship.
* Going out with your own friends, be it for shopping, coffee, a museum tour or to catch a movie.
* Spending some time indulging in a favored activity, reading a book or just watching the television by yourself.
* Little getaways with friends that last a few days or a week.
How long is a good break? – The magic number
This is something that needs serious thought. Both of you have to decide how long the break has to be and both of you have to keep your word to not interfere with each other’s lives until then.
Two weeks is the perfect break in the relationship to sort your issues and come back together for a conversation. Anything less feels like a little holiday from each other. Anything more and you’ll both end up forgetting each other and get used to living separately *unless that’s what you want*.