If you find yourself wondering if you can really trust the guy you’re dating, you need to be absolutely sure before either dumping him, taking the relationship to the next level or marrying him.
Trust is the biggest test
Because trust is a very important part of every relationship and because you can’t connect with someone without having this kind of bond, here are a few very obvious signs you shouldn’t trust your boyfriend that you shouldn’t ignore. People need to earn your trust since you can’t blindly trust everyone. Some individuals are trustworthy and some aren’t, but you just have to pay attention and see if the person you are dating is honest with you and if he is really who he says he is. Here are a few very obvious signs you shouldn’t trust your boyfriend that you should consider:
1. He Answers His Phone in Another Room
One of the most obvious signs you shouldn’t trust your boyfriend is precisely the fact that he answers his phone in another room when he’s around you. Even though sometimes he might have personal matters to attend to, this should not happen every time his phone rings. If every time he gets a phone call he leaves the room in order to take it, then this should be a big red flag to you.
2. He Takes a While before Responding to Your Texts
Does your boyfriend respond to your texts immediately or does he usually take quite a while before he does that? Someone who cherishes you will always find the #time to answer your calls or your texts. If your boyfriend is taking hours to answer them, it may mean that you are simply not one of his priorities.
3. Not there for you.
A huge part of knowing whether you can trust a guy is measuring his loyalty to you. You should be able to count on him when you need him the most. It could be moving some boxes, being a shoulder to cry on if someone close to you dies, or something really simple like changing a light bulb.
If he jumps at the chance to help you out during your time of need, you can probably trust him with your heart. However, if he is always too busy doing something else when you need him the most, you should take it as a red flag that he cannot be trusted.
4. Rarely uses your name.
If a man is trying to juggle and manage his time between several girls, he will usually end up being very generic in his correspondence with you. Whether it is via email, text, or even through a phone call, if he refrains from using your name and sticks to generic nicknames like “babe” and “sweetheart”, you should be suspicious.
5. Sometimes He Just Doesn’t Answer The Phone For A While
This really depends on circumstance, but think about it. If he’s at work not answering the phone, okay, that’s understandable. But if it’s a regular Saturday and you’ve been texting him all night and he hasn’t responded once (and this happens all the time), you have to wonder why he’s not answering. Also, pay attention to how he acts when you ask him where he’s been. If he gives a vague, random excuse, he’s probably lying to you
6. Other Girls Are Constantly Liking His Facebook Stuff
Social media can play a big part in figuring out if a guy is trustworthy or not. Pay attention to his Facebook. If he’s always posting selfies that tons of other girls like and comment on? Bad news. If other girls are always liking his status, leaving flirty comments or messaging him? Bad, bad news. If a bunch of girls are acting that way, it’s most likely because he’s acting that way towards them
7. He keeps trying to keep you busy
He suddenly starts encouraging you to spend time with other people. Their rationalization is If you spend time with other people, then I can too.
No matter what you try to convince yourself to not confront the truth, if your boyfriend exhibits at least 3 or more of these cheating RED FLAGS then you have to start to face reality and chose whether your self worth is deserving of a man like this. It’s your choice and you always have the power. My advice? Take control of your life and self respect. Feel free to call me on keen for live advice or chat. 1-800-ASK-KEEN Ext# 03209836