Psychologically, triangles are very complicated. Most people don’t seek them out—at least not consciously. They just seem to happen. One moment you are happily single. The next thing you know you are in love with someone who is married. Or you are happily married and suddenly you realize your partner is seeing someone else.
Sane people get out of a triangles as soon as they realize they are in one. Love addicts stay engaged hoping things will resolve themselves in time. This is because love addicts can’t let go. They have no tolerance for separation anxiety. Once they have bonded with someone, letting go is like death to them. Some love addicts in a triangle will die trying to get to a resolution. They kill themselves or they kill someone in the triangle yes it CAN get that serious. On a lighter note, this article will focus on the less violent aspects of love triangles and how you can sail through the complexities of a relationship like this.
So, have you been affected by a love triangle in your life? Are you currently involved in one now? Here’s some advice to help navigate the situation and arrive at the best solution for you.
WHO DO YOU LIKE BETTER?
It’s true, that when you’re in a love triangle (I’m acting like this happens to me all the time), your heart is screaming at you “PICK THIS GUY!” But for one reason or another, losing sleep over it and laboring forever and asking everyone about it is way more fun than listening to that annoying, logical voice. But if you really want to know, like, listen to the voice
What are your priorities?
Are you looking for real love, or are you consumed by lust? What do you want out of your relationships? Emotional support? Physical satisfaction? No-strings-attached fun? Maybe the whole package? Many love triangles begin because one of the people involved is unsure of what they want or hasn’t fully committed to their current relationship. Being in a committed relationship can be a wonderful opportunity to find deeper fulfillment with love, but at the same time, it can be a hindrance if that’s not what you are ready for or actively looking for. If you are the third party in a love triangle, you need to consider your place, where you stand and if you’re comfortable being the third wheel, because the situation may never change.
Don’t just take the other person’s word that you’re the one they want. They could just as easily be saying that to the other person too. Look for certain signs that you are indeed the chosen one. Do they spend time with you on holidays? What about on their birthday? These are the major moments that we usually have the people we are closest with around us. If you’re not there on those days, maybe you’re not the chosen one after all.
Don’t think it’s now or never
The last thing you should do is think that this is your ultimate chance for love. Whether you are the chosen person or not, take the situation for what it is…the possible start of a relationship. The true hard part is yet to come, as their no guarantee of success when it comes to relationships. All that you are doing now is deciding on who’s going to have that relationship.
Love triangles are stressful on everybody involved, and it’s a lot to deal with. You really have to be sure that the person you’re waiting for is the person you’re supposed to be with in order to make it worth it. It rarely ever is. The best advice actually may be just to back off and let time take it’s course. You might be surprised at who else you find along the way, and how much better it is without the drama in your life.