Can you easily spot a liar? Research suggests that our instincts for judging liars are actually fairly strong — but our conscious minds sometimes fail us. It can be nothing short of frustrating when we feel someone might be lying to us, but we can’t seem to get to the bottom of whether they are really telling the truth or fibbing. Lies can be thrown at us by countless people in our lives — from friends, to family, to significant others, coworkers and more. Sometimes the lies are tiny little white ones — like, “I love your new dress,” or “No, your hair doesn’t look messy today” — but, other times they might be big and very significant — like, “No, I didn’t cheat on you,” or “It wasn’t me who stole money from you.” When considering the latter group of lies, I’m sure many of us can agree that it’s vital to be able to tell if the person is telling us the truth or not. Luckily, there are signs we can look for when trying to quickly and easily spot a liar.
1. A change in their voice
According to Gregg McCrary, a retired FBI criminal profiler, a person’s voice or mannerisms of speaking may change when they tell a lie, as reported on the Real Simple website. He first takes the strategy of identifying a person’s regular speech patterns and mannerisms by asking typical, easy questions, such as what their name is or where they live. This allows him to see any changes in speaking or mannerisms when he asks more challenging, interrogative questions.
2. Direction of their eyes
Sometimes people who are not telling the truth may look to the left because they may be constructing answers or imagery in their head. This may be opposed to looking to the right or up and to the right, where people’s eyes often head when they are trying to recall an auditory or visual memory. However, these eye directions may be reversed for the typical left-handed person. The most obvious giveaway when someone is lying is lack of eye contact. They’ll look everywhere but at your eyes; their own eye pupils may expand (dilate). In fact, they may turn their whole body away from you.
3. Jaw Manipulation
Some liars open their mouths and slide their jaws back and forth. The back and forth movement of the jaw stimulates the salivary glands in the back of the throat. This movement is an attempt to moisten their dry throats due the fight-or-flight response.
4. Eye Pointing
Our eyes point to where the body wants to go. Liars often look toward the nearest exit, telegraphing their desire to physically and psychologically escape the anxiety caused by lying. (People who look at their watches telegraph the same message, signaling a desire to cut short a conversation.)
5. They are dramatic for no reason
They become exasperated, sarcastic or even aggressive if you challenge their statements or claims, or if you persist in asking them questions.
6. Avoiding the Subject
A person who wants to hide something will usually try to avoid bringing it up in the conversation. Try to talk about anything related to the situation without addressing it directly and see if the person tries to jump to another topic.
Whether it’s a little white lie or a big fat, juicy one, we do get lied to. And whether we’re easily fooled or we choose to believe the lies, there are many ways to find out the truth. We just have to be on the lookout for them. Get answers to all your questions with a psychic reading from Emily!