We all have ideas about what love should be, what love should look like, and how it should feel. A lot of the time these ideas are plain wrong (we can thank romantic novels and movies for that). Because of the fairy tales and media hype, some of us might not recognize the real thing when it comes our way. Maybe it’s because of these grand visions of love that have been implanted in our minds can confuse you with expectations that doesn’t apply to current reality. It could also be the result of being burned too many times in the past and having walls up when it comes to either giving love or being able to receive it.
The point is, love is a tricky thing. A guy can say he loves you and not truly mean it, and a guy can love you a lot but not be ready to say it. Love, as beautiful as it is, can also be scary, and a lot of us keep our guard up until we’re sure he feels a certain way in order to keep from getting hurt.
Here are some ways to tell if he is in love with you:
Your happiness is as important to him as his own.
Your happiness may be even more important! When you love someone, really love someone, their happiness is your happiness. This is especially true for men who need to feel like they can make a woman happy. If you tell him that something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, this is not a sign that he’s in love with you. A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy and will learn the things will make you happy, and he’ll make an effort to do those things.
The way he looks at you.
He looks at you like you’re a not from this Earth, it’s a look reserved only for you. It’s not only the way he looks at you; it’s the frequency. He can’t stop looking at you; whether you’re together or across the room from each other, his gaze will always be oriented toward you. Even when a man is pretending to not be falling in love with you when he actually is , that look will be impossible to resist, his eyes and energy will be totally locked on you, and ONLY you.
He wants to give to you.
Real love is about giving, not taking. This is why parents typically love their children more than their children love them. You would think it would be the opposite. From birth through our teenage years (and sometimes beyond!) kids take and parents give. Every parent will tell you that you never know real love until you have a child, and that’s because this kind of love is all about giving.
When you love someone, you want to give that person everything you have. This isn’t about material possessions. You want to give by being the best you can, you want to make them happy, to enhance their life, you want to do things for them that will make them happy.
He wants you to hang out with his friends.
This might be annoying for you, but he really wants you around and that is a beautiful thing, whether it’s his best guy friends or his cool femal friends he has you by his side at all times. That means he is totally committed to you and wants the world to know that you two are a pair and where he goes you go. That is a tremendous clue to how seriously in love he is with you.
He remembers every little conversation you’ve had.
That time you rambled about your nail polish preferences? He was paying attention THE WHOLE TIME, and buys you the right ones for your birthday. When you mentioned once 8 months ago on your first date that you haven’t been to a good Broadway show in years , he will remember that and surprise you with a tickets to the most popular show of the season for your birthday. A man who remembers small details does so because he cares and wants to know and remember every tiny detail of your life. It makes him feel closer to you when he stores all the litte things in his memory bank when it comes to you.
TRUST. This is pretty much the biggest, most important one.
Trust means you genuinely trust the other person and don’t feel the need to go through their belongings, constantly speculate on what they’re doing or not doing and open up their heart to you. So if he tells you private things about himself, doesn’t feel the need to go through your phone and constantly investigate every little thing you do… it most likely means he trusts you.
Trust is about letting someone in completely, being the person they can confide in when the rest of the world seems scary or overwhelming. If he comes to you when he’s sad, frustrated or overwhelmed, it’s another major sign he trusts you. Men only talk to women they trust about deep, private, sensitive issues.
They Have Your Back, No Matter What.
Would your partner stand up for you in an awkward situation? Would they step in and defend you, not knowing whether you were right or wrong, but just because they want to be by your side?
People often grow closer together by joining together to fend off outside attacks, be they physical (from snakes made out of spiders) or emotional, like some jerk yelling at you for no good reason.
If some guy is screwing around with you and your guy goes crazy with uncontrollable rage, it’s a huge sign he’s head over heels in love. If someone hurts your feelings and he can’t stand the person, another major sign he’s in love with you.
The bottom line is: if your partner is willing to go to bat for you, it’s a great sign that there’s love in your relationship.
Place less weight on his words and more weight on his behaviors and actions. A man’s behaviors and actions are more revealing and show if he loves you or not. It’s easier for a man to say “I love you” because that’s what you want to hear. When a man loves you, you won’t need to hear the words because you will just know