Women often make the predictable mistake when they chase men they like. Even with all we know about relationships these days, there seems to be a lot of confusion when it comes to the “chase” and how that differs from “playing games.” Men are very simple creatures, and although they have many complex qualities, what they find attractive in women is the one similarity that all men seem to share. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not talking about physical appearances, because that differs between each man. I’m talking about the qualities that make him stop in his tracks and think, “Wow. She is an incredible person!”
If you like him don’t chase him!
You notice someone that you really like and you find that you have a strong attraction to them and you make it obvious to them that you are attracted to them and they do not give you that much attention back, so you pump up your attention towards them, and then you start to really make it obvious that you want them to give you some attention back, eventually you start to become really bold in your chase and you openly start to make overtures that become uncomfortable to them as they are not attracted to you.
Or on the other hand you have met someone, or you have been dating someone for a period of time and you notice their interest is waning on you, so you start to pursue them by ringing them all the time, telling them that you will meet up with them, you start to do all the chasing and calling them and arranging the dates etc.
What is happening is they are now moving away from you all the more because your starting to come on too strong! No doubt you thought by chasing him it would show to him that you really are into him and that you want him, well that is nice to know, but after all your chasing do realize that man has always been the hunter and he does not want to be hunted down by YOU! He would prefer to hunt you down and he will if he is attracted to you in a big way he will.
Haven’t you been in the position of getting to know a guy and not feeling too sure about how much your into him as of yet? You knew that he was attractive and something you can definitely be interested in but felt the need to take it slow, and then out of nowhere he begins to call , text, and come on so strong that it becomes annoying and uneasy. You go from be curious about him to feeling pressured by his efforts . Pretty soon, you associate him with eye rolls and panic whenever you see a text or call from him. If he just paced himself and made it a little more mysterious and confident in his approach you would have been more than happy to keep around. This is exactly how he feels when you chase him. It’s not that its a bad thing, it just makes things a lot less interesting and fun.
Leave it to him to chase you!
This is where the reality check sets in for many females that are dating men that they are attracted to and if they only bothered to sit back and let him do the calling, the constant texting and arranging dates to see each other she will know for sure how much he is attracted to her and really wants to be with her. If a man is attracted to you in a big way nothing will stop him in chasing you to get you, the reason for this is that he wants you big time!
Men enjoy the chase, and more so if you give them signs that you are attracted to them, and it is also wise to keep having your life and doing all the things you loved before you met him rather than putting your life on hold just in case he rings. This of course makes you that much more attractive and not only that you become that much more interesting to him, so he will chase you even more.
If a man has minimal attraction to you and has asked for your number, and possibly a date or tells you he will meet you at such and such, then know this man is not going to be chasing you as the attraction is not there for him. You will find out fast enough if you let him do the chasing after you, what you will find out is that he will fade out of your life very fast because he was not initially that attracted to you in the first place.
This doesn’t mean bossy! Please don’t make that mistake. While some men may like the bossy attitude, it wears thin after a while. Be demanding in the way that shows him you can be in charge. Sometimes, men feel like they’re the ones that need to be in charge all of the time, and it’s a sexy relief when they can sit back and let a woman do it for a change!
What is important for every woman to know is that if a man is really attracted to you then he will pursue you and there is nothing that can or will stand in his way in getting you. If he is not attracted to you in a big way, you will know if you try to let him chase you, and you learn quickly as he will not hang around, nor will he keep his calls and texts consistent ! So be smart let the man chase you, and this will definitely make you aware that yes he is attracted to you in a big way. Now this is the one for you! Why BECAUSE HE IS INTO YOU!