People from every walk of life are always asking for advice about the current status of their romantic relationships. For my regular clients I always take the time to respond to their inquires and use my empathic abilities to give the most honest accurate advice without holding back. This recent testimonial submission from a loyal client who we will call “Laura” who had specific romantic dilemma she needed my intuitive insight on.
I dated a guy Eddie in high school and throughout my first 3 years of college. We were each other’s first true love and lost our virginity to each other. As much as I loved him I was always afraid of losing him to the spirit of curiosity that takes over all men who has never had the chance to “sow their oates” and experiment with other women. By the time we were both in our early 20’s not only was I in fear of losing him to another girl, but my friends and family members were constantly reminding me that he may get bored with me soon and not to be too surprised if he starts to want to see other people. My insecurity doubled overnight. I put on a strong happy face but inside I was dying. To cope with my fears I started eating more food and the pounds quickly started packing on. Even though he hadn’t shown any interest in other women throughout the entire length of or relationship he did make it clear that he was not pleased with my weight gain.
Like a good boyfriend he tried to be supportive, and offered to work out with me and help my prepare healthier meals. The more he tried to help the more I felt pressured to be thin again, and it became harder and harder to control. Then around Christmas of last year he turned into someone I did not recognize. He literally stopped calling me like he did faithfully everyday for 6 years. There were no more random text messages to check on me and see how I was doing or feeling. When I would call he would either send it straight to voicemail or hurry me off the phone without any explanation. It seemed impossible that someone I basically grew up with and loved exclusively could suddenly turn so cold without no warning whatsoever. I tried to think of every reason for this behavior. Maybe I was too boring, or overly sensitive. Maybe I complained to much about little things and he had enough. I knew my weight was something he didn’t like but I couldn’t imagine he could be that shallow after all these years. I went to mall to shop for a new jacket and as I turned the corner and walked onto the escalator to go down I saw him holding hands with another woman on the up side of the escalator. My heart froze, and my eyes began to well up. He looked in my direction and starred at me with no emotion and then turned back to her. I don’t even remember walking to my car. I couldn’t stop crying and could barely see and I struggled to drive myself home.
I expected a phone call or text with some kind of response to what I just witnessed but instead I got nothing. I waited 24 hours for a response and still nothing. By day 2 I was very angry, I felt that not only have I been betrayed but I wasn’t even given the respect of a formal explanation. I called his phone 4 times until he answered. Even his hello was heartless and sounded so unlike the way he normally speaks to me. It was as if he was speaking to a stranger, like he never cared and will never care again. He told me that he couldn’t bare to look at me anymore because of my weight. I told him that I could lose it and begged him not to leave me. In the end, he was fine dealing with everything our relationship threw his way but he just had a tremendous distaste for fat people and seeing me like this was the final straw. I had gained 45 pounds, I went from weighing 110 pounds to being a solid 155. Those 45 pounds meant more to him than the 6 years of love we invested in each other.
I did not take the breakup well, but the one good thing was my commitment to getting back in shape. I pushed myself harder than I ever have before for 4 months and lost it all. I went with friends to shop for new clothes, tried wearing more stylish and less simple clothes. I went to the best salon in the city and got my hair lightened up and layered. The reaction from everyone was overwhelming. Most of the time when I walked in a familiar place the people I knew didn’t recognize me and would do double takes. Although I thought about Eddie everyday and wished to try again I did begin to feel confident and capable of moving on. Until once again my chance we see each other at a mutual friend’s engagement party.
The moment he saw me he seemed mesmerized. He couldn’t take his eyes off me, and wouldn’t stop telling me how incredible I looked. My heart was racing so hard from excitement from seeing him again and how positively he responded to me I almost felt dizzy. He asked for me to have coffee at our favorite late night diner and we sat in our favorite booth and looked into each others eyes and spoke for hours. He wasn’t seeing anyone at the moment and neither was I. I was not seeing anyone because I had been hoping and wishing for the day when he would walk back into my life and do exactly what he was doing now. I spent the night with him and had a beautiful night with the man I love. As I drove home it suddenly dawned on me what had really just happened. The truth was so obvious and yet I was so blinded by the idea of what I thought was happening that I subconsciously convinced myself it was real. The tough reality of it all, is that my only value to Eddie had nothing to do with me the person inside but how I looked physically. He went from being cold and distant with no compassion about my feelings, to 4 months later reverting right back to the wonderful, loving boyfriend I thought he was. I saw for the first time that what I was hoping for was just an illusion. I can honestly say that there was a moment I was prepared to live the illusion as truth just because I loved him so much and didn’t care how I was able to have him – as long as I could have him.
If I did not take the chance and call you for a intuitive psychic reading when this all came to light I fear that I may have given into my weakness and settle for a man who I loved unconditionally but only loved me superficially. Your guidance and insight helped steer me through the storm. From the moment you began the reading you were telling me things I knew and felt only in my heart and mind but never spoke out loud to anyone. You explained to me the consequences of making the wrong choice and when I stubbornly ignored your advice the first time we spoke , the situation turned out exactly as horrible as you predicted. Down to the most delicate details. It’s been over a year since I decided to let him go and even thought I still miss him and we talk every now and then I feel so grateful to be in the strong, healthy place I am in now. You also convinced me that a year from the day I decided to break it off for good a better man will come into my life. Well you were wrong, it was a year and 2 days! I am really happy with my new boyfriend and he seems me for so much more than Eddie. We communicate and share our feelings often and it’s so different to be in a relationship where I do not feel afraid that something out of my control will take him away from me. I know now that if it doesn’t work out as expected that I have the courage and confidence to survive it. I am so happy I found you and will recommend you to several of my friends who need your help!